Happiness, something to work towards.

Here's a thought that tickled my pickle:

Wouldn't you agree that our life is simultaneously divided into numerous fractions but at the same time, continuous until our last breath? It is divided because everyday is the start of something new, none the less each and every one is influenced by the last and will continue to influence the following.


The daily disconnections are often something that gives me trouble. Has it ever happened to you that you were having a great day, and I mean fantastic, and didn't want it to ever end because there was nothing that promised the following day was going to be just as amazing? Sometimes, I feel like I've got the world figured out from a to z, I know how I feel and what I want out of life, then I fall asleep. It might be that the next morning, I remember what I had managed to clarify the day before and continue to ride the wave of high life. But in the end, it might be a couple days later or a week if I'm lucky, I'll actually forget where I was headed. Just by living, our minds become cluttered with rubbish that we inevitably end up becoming overwhelmed, which can only lead to confusion and unhappiness.

I have goals, ambitions and desires like the rest, these are the things that make me truly happy. Sometimes they become buried beneath the disheartening rubbish and I actually need to spend a second, or a week, digging them back out. Of course life is all about the ups and downs, whether it's because of hormones or extrinsic circumstances.

I think I figured out the key. Of course, instead of being a simple answer, it's actually a much more complicated challenge which needs to be dealt with on a day to day basis. All ears ? (or eyes, what ever). The trick is to being actively happy. Give me a chance here, I know it sounds farfetched. Of course you can allow external affairs to make you happy, and you should, otherwise you've got bigger problems. However, if you develop the ability to make yourself happy then haven't you won?

I know, it sounds impossible. If you're upset because something really bad just happened how can you simply turn your mood around? You can't, not immediately anyway. Sometimes it's natural and even expected to be troubled in which case only time and optimism will heal us. But I would say more often then not we let ourselves be bothered by things which are not of the greatest consequence, even if they seem to be at the time. With regards to those situations, I make my point.

The next time you're upset or just feeling a little blah because of a monotonous period in your life, force yourself to remember what makes you happy. Don't wait around.

One last thing, I want thank you, Maddy, for having helped me put that gut feeling I had into a coherent thought. :)

A la prochaine!

Which kind are you?

Question :
Know why I hate malls ?

Answer :
People are so caught up in their ultimate goal of spending as much money as their bank accounts allow that they forget to look in front of them.

You know that feeling of people looking through you or simply neglecting your presence? I just... I don't understand how we ever got to this bitterly low level of recognition among ourselves. I suppose it's possible we've always been this way and have just never changed. Wouldn't you have thought that having lived in a society for thousands of year would have taught us to look out for each other? Both literally looking out in hope of avoiding a walk-in collision, but also in the more general sense. Instead, I can't help but feel that to most people I cross I'm just an other empty shell. Thank god there are two types of people. To the other kind I'm the person they chose to hold the door for that day or decided to greet for no apparent reason.

I'm not lonely... That's not my point. I don't crave attention, that's not my point either. I know people are busy when they're shopping and have their minds preoccupied, trust I'm a pro-consumer. Somehow, that doesn't mean all standards of courtesy and politeness should be dropped as soon as you have something to do or somewhere to go.

I don't expect people to stop every stranger they cross in the street to divulge in thirty seconds how depressing their life actually is. I don't even feel a Hello is needed. It's as simple as a simple gesture of courtesy or making eye contact. When you look into the eyes of a person there's something that registers in their brain. It's like that person just let you take the first step into their lives.

Of course 99% of the people you make eye contact with you'll never see again. Heck, chances are you didn't exchange nor want to exchange a single word with them but for that split second in time you acknowledged each other. Maybe it gave you a reason to let him or her on the bus before you got on. If not, nothing is lost. The point being, you took a second to devote your thoughts to someone other then yourself.

It's called acknowledgment, and for what ever little its worth it makes me feel like we live together in a society we are all part of and care for. Otherwise, we're nothing but solitary individuals living in a common space in which everyone else simply becomes a nuisance.

All I can say is an honest smile from a stranger can make all the difference in my day.

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